Motivation has become a “thing”. The real thing is not motivation. The real thing is the right thing. Motivation is this thing we use as an excuse as to why we are not doing things, plus the reason we fabric as to why we do things. The only thing we need to know is the right thing and we need to simply do it because it is the right thing.
The idea of naming a school after my self is not something I want to do. I do not like the idea of building a school around an individual. A school is a place where a community trains together in a shared way to achieve individual goals.
If I have learned anything, I have learned that the more selfless I can be, the better results I can generate. Seriously, selfless over selfish every time. It is counter intuitive to think a shift in focus from our needs to the needs of others can bring us what we need in a greater abundance. But, it is true. I am saying you have to be a martyr, I am saying that our niche is always found in what others need.
We are what we allow ourselves to be. In victory or defeat we define the lesson of that moment and decide how we will carry it forward. Everything has value. Our greatest victory can be our greatest personal defeat and our greatest loss can be the wisest teacher. No matter what, we have to get up the day after and decide how we are going to live.
It’s been toooo long. I haven’t written any posts or created much content at all for over 4 months. Why is that? It is from having another child! If I am ever going to take a break and focus on something different, a newborn is a pretty good reason!
To this day, I always approach everything as if we are outsiders. I assume everything rigged against us. I am not paranoid, I am accepting that when we leave things to chance, there are no guarantees what the result will be. We do not have the luxury of coasting, we have to kill (figuratively), to ensure victory.
Ok, I am sure to take some heat for this. I see lots of people using “professor” as their title in BJJ. Here is the thing, if you are Brazilian with Portuguese as your 1st language, I have no issue with you calling your teacher “professor”, because in Portuguese, it means teacher! The English definition for “Professor” does not apply.
I know people offline that represent themselves as happy but are actually suffering. It is not an exclusively online issue. We all wear a mask to get thru some tough days. It's not that we wear a mask, it is how long and why that is the issue.
Fear of failure and fear of change can derail everything. You may fail, but you may also succeed. You may be comfortable in your current state, but you are not satisfied. You have to find peace in effort that leads to satisfaction.
You do not have to dwell on failure and mistakes. You do not have to “fix” what you are not good at. You do not have to believe you are broken or incomplete. The key is accepting who you are, having a clear picture of where you want to go, and you have to start putting in work you can believe in on the path to what and where you want to go and be.
Just because you can, doesn't mean you should. Think about how many things you do because you think you can get away with it. How many corners do we cut because we can get away with it but we know it is the wrong thing to do? How many excuses have we made to justify these actions? Nobody is innocent, we all have done it.
It is hard to believe in positive change or growth with some people. Again, we expect people to give us the room to grow, shouldn't we return the respect? Trusting people have changed, grown, evolved… it all is a big risk
Being able to be honest is as much about the people around us as much as it is our ability to communicate with ourselves. Who we have around us is do to our choices. Having people that see vulnerability as a selfish opportunity around us, is the result of poor choices.
Everyone wants to be right, to win all the time, but that is not possible. We are all human, which means we have flaws. If we do not own our flaws and constantly try to hide from them, we are not acting as adults, we are behaving as a spoiled child not getting their way.
It is a good thing to have the problems I have. Trying to balance out the work I love with the family I love more, is not a challenge. It is my life’s pleasure to fight for what I believe in and love on all fronts.
In almost every physical encounter against another person, I would hit a point where I had to answer the question. It feels like time slows down, all these thoughts race thru my brain, and I have to make decision. I trained to answer the question as a killer.
When we are in our youth, we do not have the skills or experience to fully comprehend the world around us and the level of impact our interactions can have on us later in life. This is where the maturation process comes into play. Some of us rise above while others never get beyond. Most of us are in some middle place where we struggle, knowingly or unknowingly with ghosts of our youth.