I love my time with the family. Weekends are great because there are dinners out, longer sessions snoogling on the couch (that is a real word in my house), and random adventures. I really do love the time I get with my wife and son without the threat of work once Saturday morning is done. BUT, I also have this pull towards Monday. I have a pull towards getting back to work. The curse of loving your work and your family.
I think the healthiest place you can be is wanting to go back to work because you love it. If you are working for the weekend and only want time off, your job sucks. I would feel more guilty about work, but I get security, financial freedom to do whatever we want in our free time, and better balance because of it. I love my family but I also love my work. It’s ok. I am not saying this for me, I saying this for you.
Again, if you are working for the weekend, your job sucks. If your job sucks, you are stepping away from friends and family to acquire money via a means that is not necessary. Don’t tell me you can’t do anything else. You can do whatever you want if you have legit skills and can bring value to an employer. It’s not your experience or your degree that matters to the marketplace – it’s your actual value. OK, if you want to be a CPA, Dr, Lawyer, or Architect – you need to go back to school. BUT, if you really want it, you will do it.
But my family…. I don’t want to hear it. If you give a crap about your family, you will do everything you can to be your most authentic self. This means you will do work that fits you and your dreams plus aspirations. If you sacrifice you, you will resent your spouse and kids later. Don’t hate on them because you were to scared to be you. Being real is good for all involved.
Take care of your responsibilities and provide for those you love. Just make sure you don’t give up on yourself in the process. If you don’t love yourself and respect your aspirations, nobody else has a reason to love or respect you either.
Go be you. Be your most authentic self and stop doing what the world wants. You know you better than anyone. Do what you know, not what you are told.